Over the years I've gotten asked what are my secrets to be being younger looking and I've also gotten accused of lying about my age. Several bitchy women have demanded to see my driver's license because they "don't believe (me)" over the years. Like who would lie about being older after they hit 21? #idiots
But back on point. What is the secret? Is it #goodgenes?
Side note. Not to be mistaken with a little white racist ad talking about "good genes" and #goodjeans insinuating blond hair and blue eyes are better than any other #genes, since it's been proven "mixed race" children inherit the better genes from their parents while stagnant (not mixed) continue to pass the poorer genes from the same lines down. Over 60% of all breast cancer patients tested for a certain gene have been proven to be linked to a single island in the Highlands of Scotland.
Right, so is it good genes?
Well, yes and no. Yes, some of the men and women in my family have aged much better than average. But no, I've still aged considerably better than all of them.
That's not a brag. It's an honest observation.
So the answer is NO. Genes do not do all of it. It may be a major component, but there are things that I have done over the years that have helped.
So tell me, right?
One factor I believe helps slow aging is regular working out, but not anything your body cannot handle. Gradual build up to a level that is sustainable long term. I have observed over the years people who are on their feet at their jobs all day, assume this is enough. For some, it might be, but for most, the joints and muscle aren't getting the motion and focus they need and it's actually becoming a detriment. Also repetitive motion can be just as bad. You need counter motions and distribution to all your muscle groups. Walking all the time will need sitting exercises (up and down, not just sitting and watching TV) and other hip exercises to restore full motion and ensure better mobility long term. Even if you have taken stints off from it, starting back up can help slow the process down.
Also any damage you have sustained must be accounted for and you need to add strengthening exercises to help support the damage whether broken bones, torn ligaments, etc. Seems like common sense there.
BUT a damaged mind, whether emotional or physical, needs exercise too. Understanding any trauma and addressing it in a healthy way is important. For women, this can be difficult since women are often expected to put up with a lot of abuse and "grin and bear it". Any emotional abuse will potentially age you more than any physical abuse. "Bottling it" is extremely unhealthy. Next time someone pisses you off and you can't say anything. Stop at that moment and pay attention to how your body feels. The muscles are tightened, including the brain muscle. Your joints are being tightened, everything really. This is your body's fight or flight response. Do you feel like sprinting 100 yards? Could you? The exercise you do must offset the amount of upset, anger or rage. You need to get that out. Scream in a pillow, beat the crap out of a bag, run a couple miles. Get it out. Walking won't usually be enough to release the fight or flight instinct. You'll need more.
Another side note. Men are taught physical response from a young age through sports and expectations. Take note ladies.
Main rule with anything that pisses you off? Do NOT bottle it up. It takes a toll. It's not always good to confront issues head on, although arguably better for your immediate mental and physical health, so a solid workout routine can help.
Talking it out. With a therapist. With a friend. With yourself in the mirror or without a mirror. Screaming, into a pillow if need be. You'll feel the muscles in your body begin to relax. Actually you'll be shocked at how the screaming pillow thing gives you an immediate release. You'll still need to talk it out for your brain muscle, but the other muscles release a lot of tension with that one exercise. Not all of it but a lot.
The idea that you should just "let it go" is #bullshit. I've met people who do this and have the outward appearance of constant calm. Not a single one of them has aged well. I've known a lot of "hippie dippy" types over the years. They usually aren't eating properly and fake it until they make it. So they are constantly soothing, but it's not helping most of them. Problems need solutions, and even if they "let it go" outwardly, the subconscious will still play with it. I've had conversations with several where they admit it's challenging to just "let it go" and find themselves "dwelling" if someone brings a subject up that really upset them before. Their answer is to avoid the subject altogether. This isn't healthy.
Once you've done as much as you could you have to accept it. It's not about "letting it go". It's about getting your mind to accepting things you cannot change. For most of us, that's doing as much as we can and realizing that's our limit. You wanted to be an Olympic skater but by 14 you realized that was never going to be possible and accepted it. Accepting isn't the same as "letting go". One absorbs fact and the other is an attempt at ignoring it. Don't ignore things. Face them and accept them. Then it's not going to aggravate you when people bring it up.
Next skin care routine? It varies. You need to buff polish your skin. Loofa. Just like walking in the sand is good to prevent calluses forming, so you need to gently polish your skin. You also need to replenish natural oils where your body doesn't produce as much. Those with "oily" skin tend to age slower. The natural oils from your own skin act as a moisturizer.
Side note. For most natural blond and blue eyed this poses a real problem. Typically those genes come with dry skin. Dry skin ages faster. So much for the "superior race".
Can you mitigate it? Sure with moisturizer that works with your skin, which most women will know this is tricky. You have to find what will work for you. You also might have to use multiple products just for different zones on your face. If you have certain sections of your face that are more oily, then you already know this. The more oily places don't need extra moisturizer. So you have to customize where which product goes on your face. Really the same with dry skin. Too much of a good thing can be bad. Finding the balance for your skin type can take a lot of money just trying to find products that work for you. Ironically most brands over the last century focused on white skin tones and not the olive, yellow, or browns. I'm not going to recommend brands here, but you know which ones didn't bother with the other skin tones until recently. Use the ones that have. If you're the pale, supposedly coveted white pinkish euro stereotype skin, bad news. In spite of most companies catering to that skin type and its hues, they still don't have a fix all. From my observations, use higher end moisturizers from younger ages. Your skin ages faster generally.
Which brings me to my final advice. Don't be that passive aggressive asshole. A 53 (so she claimed) woman walked up into a conversation I was having with someone and she just started talking like I wasn't even there. Not like she was excited or needed to talk to the person I was. She just broke in like I was nobody and nothing. Nevermind the "white privilege" #bullshit. She looked like she was in her mid to late 60s. Some of you might think she lied about her age, and perhaps. Liars generally don't age that well either, even with good genes. That would explain some differences within my family. If she was, it was making her look worse not better. When I pointed out my younger sister is older, she looked at me like I had grown horns and asked in that snippy condescending tone "how old is she?" 55. Then she was blunt in that same rude, condescending tone how old I was. That bullshit is aging some of you really badly.
What?
Ugly inside is really going to make you ugly outside. I'm blunt as after I told her my age, then I said to both I didn't much appreciate anyone that just interrupts me like I don't exist at my age. Hell at any age.
Side note. For years, I've come home and screamed in a pillow instead of calling a bitch out. Fuck them. I'll call a horrible person out in a heart beat now.
All that ugly you think you're letting out passive aggressively and how "smart" you think you are? It's aging you. Your brain knows you're being ugly and eventually it shows. Those passive aggressive, hateful bitch behaviors to other women, let alone men and especially minority men, aren't helping those of you like this. I don't have any advice on how to be less like that. I've never been that way. Ugly inside will make ugly outside.
The only other thing I would recommend to reduce the aging process is avoid prescription drugs. I know that's hard. But use only as you need them and try to minimize them. Some of the sweetest, nicest people I've known have aged poorly just because of over prescribed drugs. It's obvious if you look at former drug addicts, of both prescriptions and illegal drugs. Illegal drugs are clearly even worse than over prescribed prescription drugs. The body can only take so much and it needs time to recover from the medicines.
But I need them?!? I understand for some this is NOT an option. One of my really good friends suffers from severe depression and without her medication she's not able to function. But in those instances, I think it's even more important to pay attention to your exercise routine and be more dedicated to it. Exercise helps mitigate a lot of mental health issue symptoms, so it's probably more important for someone who has to be on daily medication to follow some of the other advice.
It's not all "good genes". A lot of it is mental acuity. Read. Listen to all kinds of music. Keep your mind active and moving. Keep your body active. Work on counter motions if you have too much repetitive motions in your daily work. Keep your skin moisturized where it needs it. Get rid of frustration as soon as you can by physical activity to address the fight or flight instinct. Limit prescriptions. And #1? Stop with the passive aggressive bullshit and "girl games". It's not "cute" that you insulted a woman that's better looking than you. It's toxic to you. Whatever problems you cause her are just going to be visited on you tenfold and it shows in your wrinkles and premature aging.
Ah well, off to have a wonderful Tuesday! Have a blessed day! And as always, #thinkaboutit. ✌️
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